I’m beginning to feel more like myself again. While the underlying sadness of losing The Picky Eater is still there, now memories of him bring more smiles than tears. I’m glad. He was such a happy person and I want to remember him in happy ways.
Here is one example: A few days ago I was organizing my freezer. You know how it is when items migrate to the back and you discover a pork chop from 1999. Well, my freezer wasn't that bad, but it could be if I didn't keep on top of it.
In my digging, I discovered a large bone and bits from a ham The Picky Eater ordered off of a home shopping channel last holiday season. My sweetie was a very trusting person and believed every sales pitch he saw, which got scary when he watched those channels when I wasn't around to help him see the reality of what they are selling.
That’s what happened on a late November afternoon. I came home from somewhere to his excited announcement, “I just bought a ham. It looks so good!”
Oh no! I tried to be equally excited. “That’s great,” I said, then asked the inevitable, “How much did it cost?”
“It’s only three payments of $23,” was the answer.
After a pause, I said, “So you bought a $69 ham?”
I could see the wheels turning in The Picky Eater’s mind. Then he gave me a sheepish smile. “Yeah, I guess I did. That was too much, wasn't it?”
Actually, the ham was both delicious and huge. We had many dinners and sandwiches from it, and my just-discovered the leftovers would make one more meal—a pot of old-fashioned ham and beans.
I grew up eating this dish a lot, usually with a large slab of cornbread on the side. It was a meal I missed when living in
England, where a leftover ham bone was used for split-pea soup,
and no one seemed to like it paired with beans. When I moved to Kansas,
I was thrilled to find ham and beans on many restaurant menus. Of course, The
Picky Eater didn't like it, so I never made it at home.
My only complaint about this dish is it can be a little bland. So instead of using all water, I used part water and part chicken broth. I also added thyme and a bay leaf. One important note:
add salt. Ham is very salty, so there should be plenty in the
finished dish. If you don’t have a ham bone, just use a ham hock or ham steak
Slow-Cooker Ham and Beans
Serves 6 to 8
1 pound dried Great Northern beans
6 cups low-sodium chicken broth
2 cups water
1 large onion, diced
1 bay leaf
1/2 teaspoon dried thyme
1 leftover ham bone, or 1 ham hock or ham steak
Rinse the beans and remove any stones or discolored beans. Add them to the slow cooker. Add the remaining ingredients. Cook on low for 7 to 9 hours, or until the beans are tender. Remove the bone and cut up any large bits of ham before serving.